At the same time, you need to acknowledge that sometimes it’s not our place to discipline others. You have to acknowledge that a person is breaking the rules. So when they see someone not following those rules, they wrap their heads around it. They only understand that rules are made to be followed. The hardest part is explaining to him that we can only be in charge of ourselves. When you have a rule follower for a kid, you have to teach them to know the difference between something important and something minor, the difference between things that are a matter of safety and stuff that’s simply a preference. Just because he felt that the kid wasn’t listening was no reason to get an adult involved. In this particular situation, all he could do was to tell the kid about the shoelace. Really, he had done everything he needed to do in that situation. He had told the kid his shoes were untied. Rather, I didn’t think it was something he’d bring to me to handle. I wasn’t expecting him to be so horrified by a little kid not tying his shoes. Because they have a strong moral compass, they cannot fathom someone not constantly being on their best behavior. You know, the rules that aren’t a huge deal but should be enforced sometimes? Those are the ones where having a kid who’s a rule follower gets worrisome. The challenge comes from those rules that are kind of a moral gray area. Following the rules is sometimes a matter of life and death. Naturally, I encourage him to be a rule follower. How do we as parents encourage our kids to follow the rules, but not become insufferable tattle-tales? However, there’s a fine line between keeping someone safe and just being a tattle-tale. We want our kids to do the right thing, and we want them to tell someone if another kid isn’t following the rules. But it’s much different when they’re trying to force other kids to follow the rules.īeing the parent of the strict rule follower is very interesting. It’s one thing for them to follow the rules.
It’s when their moral compass and rule following goes out of their own little bubble.
#KID SUCH TATTLETALE HOW TO#
That can be a little hard to deal with, but you learn how to manage it. Having a kid who’s a rule follower can be pretty annoying sometimes. Not following the rules is a very serious offense to him because he’s seen how it could end. To him, if you don’t follow the rules, you will lose a privilege. He’s learning that actions have consequences, so of course he’s going to follow the rules. He isn’t obnoxious about it, but he is very serious about it. I assure him he’s done the right thing and send him on his way.
I’m glad my kiddo is looking out for his peers, but I’m not going to get up and tell some kid I don’t know to tie their shoes. Obviously this kid just doesn’t care about tying his shoes. I ask my son if he’s tried to tell the kid about his shoelaces - his warning to the kid went ignored.
“You have to tell him to tie his shoes!” he says to me emphatically. His feet are firmly planted in the spot and he’s looking at me. I shrug it off and figure my son will go back to playing. I look and see the little boy running, shoelaces flapping in the breeze. “Mommy! That boy’s shoes are untied!” my son points to a playmate on the playground.
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